Relationship Myths

Love Is Enough

Oohh, we're starting with a biggie. I'm a hopeless (helpless / hapless) romantic myself. It would be really nice if this one were true. We'd like to think that the love between two people can surmount all kinds of odds and obstacles, but there are severe limitations to that kind of thinking. In the real world, where I sometimes live, differences about things like: money, family, long-term goals, kids (the list could go on a lot longer) can be deal-breakers. External forces have a huge impact on our lives. To dismiss them is to be naïve. While love can definitely help you get through some things, it's not enough in and of itself.

Your Partner Should Be Your Best Friend

One question... WHY? Your best friend should be your best friend... your DOG should be your best friend. Your partner should be your partner. That doesn't mean that there's no intimacy between the two of you. It doesn't mean that you can't share. It just means that you have a different relationship than you do with everyone else. That's a good thing. Best friends exist so you can complain to them about your partner. If your best friend and partner are the same person, you've got a bit of a problem on your hands.


A Healthy Couple Doesn't Fight

Show me a couple that doesn't fight and I'll show you a ticking time bomb. Fighting is healthy. Remember, it's not IF you fight... it's HOW you fight that is important. Arguments are differences of opinion. These differences make us unique and resolving a fight is how we continue to learn about each other. And let's not forget about make-up sex... Although, don't do what I once did and tell your partner that you're "really looking forward to the make-up sex" in the middle of an argument.

If You're In Love, You Won't Find Others Attractive

This one makes me howl with laughter, but it's amazing how many people believe it — or at least say that they believe it. Look... being in love with someone doesn't mean that you suddenly go blind to beauty. Appreciating someone else's beauty does not equal wanting to be with them. As long as you're not making your partner feel inadequate, there's nothing wrong with pointing out someone else's attractiveness.

A Healthy Relationship Has Nothing To Do With Sex

Sex is incredibly important in a relationship. While the frequency of sex does tend to dwindle over time in a long-term relationship, the intimacy that comes from sex is hard to match.In this case, we don't have to limit the term 'sex' to mean 'intercourse'. A display of affection in the form of kissing, touching, etc. is matchless in making us feel loved and secure. Also... sex is fun... you heard it here first!

So remember these tips and have a fun filled relationship. Remember its always healthy to be in a relationshiop which does not stifle you as an individual.
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