Sunday, September 20, 2009

MY MR RIGHT


Now that I'm finally said yes to matrimony, many of my friends and well wishers keep asking me what makes my fiance "MR RIGHT" for me.

Now lets see how it all happened:

As it happens in an arranged marriage scenario in India, I too went through the grind of meeting prospective guys (the potential husband material), his parents and all. and each time I was left exhausted and pained. It was just that I kept meeting nerds and bigger nerds and the biggest nerds. one of them even when to the extent of asking me whether I could make round chappatis (trust me I ran for my life after hearing that). every meeting would leave me drained and I had actually started wondering whether my "MR RIGHT" exists at all or not.


I met my fiance through some common friends. When I was first told bout him, i knew one thing even before I spoke to him was that this time I was going to handle this my way. It gets way too traumatic when parents get involved and things dont work out eventually.


The first day we spoke, we mutually decided not to broach the subject of matrimony (even though both of us started talking because we were looking to get "settled" in life) and just be friends. No parent involvement, no social pressure and no goadinf from each other also to push ourselves into this relationship. We spoke, spoke at lenght. we met once, twice, thrice. And we just clicked. I realized this first and I did not hesitate in taking the first step towards him. Because I believe that there is no harm in pursuing someone when you know he's good and he could be the one with whom you could spend your life with.I was beginning to look forward to talk to him and was actually beginning to like him. It dawned me that we were truly in sync with each other - common goals, interests and personal beliefs. We just let ourselves be our own person and just let it flow. Our discussions became lenghtier as we delved more into each others lives. His honesty and stead fastness made me very attracted towards him. HIs live and let live attitude made me completely believe that he is the one for me.


So was it just these these things which convinced me about him??? No. There's more. He was interested in listening to me, wanted to know more about my dreams, my aspirations rather than my culinary skills. He was such a refreshing change. I knew it that he is the man who will let me be myself, not curb me and my desires, who will respect me for what I am and not make me change for him. He will respect my need to be an individual in my own right rather than be just known as his wife.


And when someone good looking comes with all these amazing qualities, he's got to be your

"MR RIGHT". I have found him when I was least expecting to find him. I got lucky.

So have you met your "MR/MS RIGHT" as yet???
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14 comments:

indianhomemaker said...

Congratulations Gunmeen!! Your Mr Right sounds really a Mr right. I am also delighted at what you thought really mattered!! So you are a Ms Right too. Many girls may not realise ... that he is the man who will let me be myself, not curb me and my desires, who will respect me for what I am and not make me change for him. He will respect my need to be an individual in my own right rather than be just known as his wife.

Many, many best wishes for a very happy future together!!

Antarman said...

good post !

Mr Chamko said...

Hmmm...nice post

I myself am now going through this grueling yet funny process of finding Miss Chamko

I have met only two types of girls:
1. boring pativrata types who would watch mata ki chowki and cook me food

2. the independent types who grossly overcompensate for women being subjugated for centuries and go partying boozing smoking while being emotionally dead

i think i will marry type 3 ;-)

Solilo said...

Gunmeen, Wish you all the best!

I met mine several years ago and now married to him for 9 years. :)

hitch writer said...

Congrats Gunmeen !!!

I met my wife about 20 years ago... !! we were friends for about 10 years.. and I used to run here and there looking for girls...

it took me 10 years to realise that jisko dhoondha gali gali.. woh ghar ke pichwade mili.. only once our college was getting over did I realise that i wanted her as my life partner... and now we are married since 8 years !!!!

Monika,Ansh said...

Congrats :) Came here thru IHM, especially since we are from the same city & trosseaus are always so much fun.
Best wishes :)

Balvinder Singh said...

Wow, great, and you rightly recognised the quality in him that brings two persons closer "giving a patient hearing to each other" Congrats. I have moved away from calcutta in April this year, otherwise would have attended your wedding.

Akansha Agrawal said...

Aww... this is so cool... Congratulations...

I am not an avid supporter of arranged marriages, but your Mr.Right sounds exactly right... :D Wish you a really really good life ahead with him... :D :D

vishal jindal said...

Brave! a new india is here...where the long lost blunt ego has sharpened into self esteem..docility into free spirit..like all matter, just for the sake of its existense has some internal energy...in a same manner every being has got a innate respect not for anything else but for the sole reason of its being (existence) which must be respected for sure..
Congrats for Mr Right and wish u a very happy wedding life..

vishal
@ http://epiphany666.blogspot.com/

you are the light of the world said...

hi,
Similar interests, mutual respect and strong attachment with each other are what friends share between each other. These are just the general traits of a friendship.
To experience what is friendship, one must have true friends, who are indeed rare treasure.

I have added you to my blogroll, hope you can do the same thing for me so that we can have constant communication.

Aniket said...

I just hope I find my Miss Right too. Well I don't mind her being wrong... occasionally. :D :D

Nobody likes perfection... its annoying! :P

Bala said...

Congrats dude! Wish you to enjoy the happiest marraied life with him for long long years!

Another Kiran In NYC said...

Sounds like a great match. congratulations!

Mampi said...

Wow, Your criteria is absolutely right.

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